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Understanding the Paradox of Surviving Paradox of PDF #9734 Childhood Trauma offers clinicians a new framework for understanding the symptoms and coping mechanisms displayed by survivors of childhood abuse This approach considers how characteristics such as suicid. This book was so helpful for me in my recovery from childhood trauma The authors helped me see my childhood experiences in a new way from the perspective of me as a little person I'll describe a few of these new perspectives hereFirst there is the idea that as a child I had to reject the idea I was being neglected and abused by both parents because to acknowledge the abuse would be too terrifying I needed to stay attached to my parents and family of origin for survival I therefore turned my blame inward and believed there must be something wrong with me instead My negative self image was supported by the verbal abuse and name calling I experienced especially from one parent so the idea that I was defective was reinforced Refusing to believe I was a victim or that I was victimized helped me preserve the idea that I grew up in a healthy happy family My healing really began when I confronted the idea that I WAS a victim and that I HAD been victimized Moving from this state to the state of survivor and then eventually to someone who is thriving was very important as I did not want to linger in the victim state Making the conscious realization that yes I had been a victim was crucial so that my healing could beginNext there was the idea that I learned certain behaviors to help me survive While these behaviors were useful as a child they were no longer serving me as an adult Examples of this are dissociating when being confronted fawning over people so they will like me or rescuing people so I will be needed and not abandoned Shifting these behaviors has been difficult but having a therapist who gives me 100% positive regard even when I slip up and make a mistake has been critical This book makes this point about the relationship between the therapist and client and that it should never be punitive” or punishing This idea really helped me in individual therapy that I can expect positive regard from someone even when I make mistakes and when I am not performing perfectly This might seem obvious but not all therapists can offer this skill to a client I saw 5 or 6 therapists before I found one who could offer this to me and it was worth the searchAnother Aha moment from the book has to do with the concept of suicidality I never believed I was suicidal I did have suicidal ideation while in an abusive relationship but I never thought it was an aspect of my childhood The authors helped me see that daydreaming about my own funeral as a child and fantasizing about who might come to the funeral or who would be sad and miss me these thoughts were a form of suicidality And then the authors helped me to see that suicidality for me wasn't about wanting to die it actually came out of my desire to be emotionally connected to my family of originAn interesting and unexpected insight came to me from the book regarding depression I was very depressed and anxious when I read the book as I had started trauma therapy and was finally processing my childhood abuse at the age of 53 A passage in the book described the idea that if someone can be sad and grieve then they don't have to be depressed I took this to heart and started to allow myself to feel sad and to grieve so many things the loss of a healthy and happy childhood the loss of intimacy between me and my parents and siblings what I could have been as an adult if my parenting had been “good enough” a lifetime of unhealthy and unsatisfying interpersonal relationships I wasn't sure if it would work but I had nothing to lose so I gave it a try and it worked Processing and feeling my grief lifted the depression and allowed me to finally move forwardLater in my therapeutic work I was able to find connection to my parents and abusive ex partners on my own terms without the need to reconnect emotionally or in person This is an idea that was introduced by Joanne when she fe

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Understanding the Paradox of Surviving Childhood TraumaAlity self harm persistent depression and anxiety can have roots in behaviors and beliefs that helped patients survive their trauma This book provides practitioners with case examples practical tips and techniues Understanding the Epubfor applying this mindset dir. Joanne Zucchetto and her co authors have written a plain English in depth guide to understanding the complex differently oriented mind of the survivor of complex trauma She weaves the humanity of the survivor and the humanity and understanding of the therapist into a guide to change survival with its pain into steps to creating a life well lived I only wish the succinct charts and summaries could be extracted for uick reference